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Thursday, March 18, 2010

[TN] Good-bye to Shari Cartmell, wife of Nashville Police Officer Deon Cartmell


At first, police ruled her death a suicide as the gunshot wound appeared to be self-inflicted but as of Wednesday morning, the death was no longer classified and the investigation remains open...


Video: "...My sister was not suicidal..."
 



Officer Calls Police To Report Wife's Death
Shari Cartmell's Death First Called Suicide, Now Unsure
Reported By Regina Raccuglia
WSMV
March 17, 2010
[Excerpts] NASHVILLE, Tenn. -- There are questions surrounding the death of a Metro officer's wife. At first, police were told it was a suicide case, but now they aren't sure. "That will always be my baby," said Charlotte Barbour, Shari Cartmell's mother... The family of 24-year-old Shari Cartmell said it's devastating to hear at first her death was believed to be a suicide. "I just want the truth to come out. I don't want my child swept under the rug," said Barbour. Metro police said at 4:45 p.m. Tuesday, they got a call from Shari Cartmell's husband, Metro Officer Deon Cartmell. He was off duty at the time and told police dispatchers his wife shot herself inside their east Nashville home. "It would have never even came in my mind that my sister committed suicide. We didn't even think like that," said Antoya Brandon, her sister. Police have not ruled the shooting a suicide. They haven't ruled it a homicide or an accident, either. The case is still open, and nothing has been ruled out... "I see it every day at work. My sister was not suicidal," said Brandon. "We had plans for Saturday. I was at work, and she called me and told me we needed to go walking on Saturday because we were going to be in a wedding this weekend." Kristen Mumford of Metro police said police reports show Deon Cartmell was the only other person in the home during the shooting.... [Full article here]

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METRO COP'S WIFE FATALLY SHOT, INVESTIGATION CONTINUES
WKRN
Posted: Mar 17, 2010
NASHVILLE, Tenn. – Metro police detectives are investigating after an officer's wife was fatally shot at the couple's home in Madison Tuesday afternoon. Officers responded to the home located on Saunders Avenue, near Hart Lane off Ellington Parkway, shortly after 5 p.m. to find 24-year-old Shari Cartmell with a single gunshot wound to the head. At first, police ruled her death a suicide as the gunshot wound appeared to be self-inflicted but as of Wednesday morning, the death was no longer classified and the investigation remains open. The family of Shari Cartmell said she died sometime Tuesday afternoon... [Full article here]


METRO OFFICER'S WIFE SHOT IN HEAD, DIES
The Tennessean
By By Nicole Young
March 18, 2010
Metro Police are investigating the shooting death of an East Precinct police officer's wife. Investigators say Shari Cartmell, 24, was shot once in the head at about 4:45 p.m. on Wednesday at her East Nashville home on Saunders Lane just off Hart Lane. Her husband, Deon Cartmell, 23, called police... The couple has no children... Deon Cartmell graduated from the police academy last summer and had just finished his six months of field training with Metro Police. He was assigned to the East Precinct in January... The medical examiner's office said it would be at least eight weeks until autopsy results are available in the case. [Full article here]




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178 comments:

  1. I hope figuring out what happened doesn't take the eight weeks it takes for autopsy results.

    When there's no suspect is the house still investigated like a crime scene or does that evidence just slip away?

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  2. OFFICER DECOMMISSIONED AFTER WIFE FATALLY SHOT
    wkrn.com
    Mar 18, 2010 12:22 PM PDT
    NASHVILLE, Tenn. – A Metro police officer has been removed from active duty just two days after his wife was fatally shot... Deon Cartmell was decommissioned due to questions about his mental capabilities... http://www.wkrn.com/Global/story.asp?S=12165100

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  3. OFFICER DECOMMISSIONED AFTER WIFE'S DEATH
    Woman Dies From Gunshot Wound
    MSNBC
    By Reported By Regina Raccuglia
    WSMV-TV
    updated 10 minutes ago
    ...Officer Deon Cartmell was decommissioned pending the completion of the investigation by police into the death of his wife, who died from a gunshot wound on Tuesday. Decommissioned means the officer is on paid leave and stripped of all of his police duties.href="http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/35936807/ns/local_news-nashville_tn/

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  4. There is only one direction for this to go. I am hopeful.


    Metro Officer Decommissioned During Death Investigation -- Erika Lathon
    fox17.com
    March 18 2010, 06:49 PM CDT
    ...Shari's mother insists her daughter would never attempt to take her life... [LINK]

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    [TN] Shari Cartmell's mom insists thru tears that her daughter did NOT kill herself
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Ln9o6pFnSg

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  5. Video:
    March 18, 2010

    "...then why is he not in jail?"

    Family says they were told that suicide has been ruled out. The police told media that they haven't ruled out any possibility at this time.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OD9mRwRL3Ns

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  6. You shouldnt talk about things when you don't know whats goin on. You didnt know them. No one knows what happened. So quit assuming he's automatically guilty. And yes, I do know them. I know them and are friends with the both of them. If there was a reason for him to be in jail then he would be. Yes police officers protect their own but that does not include covering up for them when they've done something wrong. The cheif here in nashville would NEVER allow that. This is a man who had his own son put in jail for breaking the law so I know he wouldn't make an exception for one of his officers.

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  7. Someone has posted this like Shari was a victim of domestic violence! I know Shari and Deon and there was no domestic violence. They were in love! He is deeply hurt right now just as everyone is that loved her. My heart and prayers go out to Deon, her mother and sister.

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  8. Shari on Twitter:

    "just waking up thankn the lord for another day"
    8:53 AM Aug 15th, 2009"

    http://twitter.com/sharshar85

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  9. I didnt know Shari well I had met her a time or two...althoug my husband did know her through work. She seemed like the sweetest girl & I was looking forward to riding our bikes this summer. My thoughts and prayers are with her family. And I too hope that it doesnt take 8 weeks to get the results.....my concern is that our state medical examiner is currently in jail...he was arrested on wed in Mississppi on drug charges...so for anyone that is reading this...we HAVE to make sure that this one doesnt slip thru the cracks!!!!!

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  10. This whole sight is stpid...and i bet shari is up in heaven having a field day with how stupid everyone is being....deon loved his wife and would never hurt her...she did not comit suicide...for all you who dont knwo it was an accidental gun fire...while she was handeling the weapon...it was an accident...and the reason he is not in jail is cause is innocent and thats what the evidence points to...i am sorry that you all cant except that...this would not be the first time she had an accidental gun fire...in the month of decemember while deon was at work she was messing with one of his pistols and it went off shot through the bed and the wall right into his speakers..and i bet the news didnt release that...they are spending so much time focusing on her mom and sister and not the fact that a mans last image of his wife was her on the floor dead...all of yal need to get a life and quit...trying to think you know things you dont...and i cant wait til deon is aloud to tell his story...but even when he tells the truth all of yal will still try and say its cause he is a cop...being a cop has nothing to do with this situation...even if he wasnt at home when this happened her mom would still try and blame him...get over it...have respect for your daughter...she would not want this at all..she loved him...this was an ACCIDENT

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  11. Shari B. Cartmell Guest Book
    http://www.legacy.com/gb2/default.aspx?bookid=9852795904964&cid=full


    Shari B. Cartmell
    The Tennessean
    March 21, 2010
    CARTMELL, Shari B.Age 24 of Nashville. March 16, 2010. Survived by husband, Deon; mother, Charlotte Barbour; father, Antoine Bethel; sister, Antoya (Oliver) Brandon; several other relatives and friends. Viewing today, 3-5 p.m. at funeral home. Visitation Monday, 11-12 Noon, with funeral to follow at Fifteenth Ave. Baptist Church, 1203 - 9th Ave. North., Rev. Randy Taylor, Eulogist, Rev. Dr. William Buchanon, Pastor. Burial in Middle TN State Veterans Cemetery. TERRELL BROADY FUNERAL HOME, INC., (615) 244-4755.

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  12. i only me shari a deon a year ago, introduced through friends. deon, shari my husband and i have been close ever since, i talk to her and deon almost daily. and saw them at least 5 times a week. they were in love and it showed. of course couples argue and have spats but like my husband and i they are over pretty quick. i hate that all this talk is going on right now. i met her family at thier house warming party and im sorry for their loss. but their daughter did NOT commit suicide and was NOT murdered either. this was an awful, traggic accident. i was with the couple the day befor and it was like any other time together. i know shari was close with her family but she also was very close with me. there was never any doubt in my mind that this was an accident. i had just got on to her a month prior for being so comfortable with picking them up. and like someone stated befor there was an incodent that happened a little while ago regarding her shooting a hole through their bed, and wall. Deon is innocent no matter what you want to think or believe. if you doubt him and their relationship then you didnt know them. i know people vent and talk about one another but who doesnt. shari would call and vent to me just like i vent to her about my husband. but she was happy and safe in their relationship. if the facts that have been stated by family members and friends that she was scared, abused, that she was going to get hurt, she was controlled, and in danger then why didnt anyone ever report it to someone or try and get her out. I know i only knew shari for a year but she was my bestfriend and always will be, i know in my heart that she is up there disqusted with what people are saying about her husband. she loved him dearly and always will as he does her. please for my friend keep your comments to yourself and trust in you heart and shari that this was a traggic accident.

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  13. BASTARD KILLED HER. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU SHARI. I MEAN I UNDERSTAND MAYBE IT WAS AN ACCIDENT . JUST TELL THE TRUTH . DONT MAKE HER OUT TO SEEM SICK ENOUGH TO TAKE HER OWN LIFE. SHE ENJOYED IT TO MUCH

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  14. It's very hard for me to not say anything about what I see and sense here, but I'll wait.

    To those who love and miss Shari, whose hearts are broken, you are in my prayers, and that the truth is made known - whatever it is.

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  15. Deon WOULD NEVER hurt anyone...

    I didnt know Shari... but i do KNOW DEON...

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  16. I just hope and pray that the truth...whatever it may be comes to LIGHT. No one REALLY knows what happened between those four walls except for Deon, Shari, and God. But to say that he was not abusive and controlling shows that you really didn't know Shari like you THOUGHT you did. Deon beat her, manipulated her and CONTROLLED her. This is all fact with noted visible bruises to back it up. And yes her family tried NUMEROUS times to get her to leave Deon but love is just funny like that sometimes, haven't you heard? I wasn't there either so I can't say that he's guilty or innocent...but he DOES HAVE A HISTORY OF BEING AN ABUSIVE SON OF A B!TCH so ya'll can get that "oh he loved Shari so much" bullshit outcha mind!

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  17. Does anyone ever notice how people consistently say "I know him...or I know her...he or she would never do that"??? It doesn't work that way people. People can hide the most significant things in their lives from the people they love and even yes, their best friends! Whether it is ruled homicide, suicide or accident...nobody can say "I KNOW" it didn't happen this way or that way! Every time someone is convicted of murder or rape...there is that person's family and friends saying "I know him...he was a nice person...he was a good family man"...or "I know her and she would never do something like this". The truth is...there are only 2 people who know what kind of life they shared in their private moments and in their own home. One of them is now dead. Let the Police do their investigation and wait on their results. The proof will show and the truth will come out! You can bank on that!

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  18. I don't believe Black women play with guns.

    Condolences to Sharis family.

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  19. I'll say this Shari did love Deon,and she loved her family. But as her family I can say this Shari was controlled by him I talk to Toya everyday and used to talk to Shari the same way until she got married. And there is nothing wrong with that. But I also noticed a change in her. This family accepted him because of Shari, because we loved her and wanted her to be happy. I do know this she would not have taken her own life, so for the people that are saying that you know her you don't know anything about Shari, her family knows her if you haven't known her more than just a "Hey, how you doing" than you don't know Shari. As far as getting her out of a bad situation you should know better, we could not force her to stop loving him, we may have wished for it but only she could do that. As far as the house warming party yea there was one, but you don't know is that it almost didn't happen Mr. or Ms. "I was at the house warming". So remember what goes on in the dark comes out in the light. And I will leave you with this NO WEPEON FORMED AGAINST US WILL PROSPER....................

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  20. I would like to say "I don't believe women play with guns"...it isn't true. There are many women who carry guns and/or like guns. So, whether someone would pick up a gun or not is no idication of what really happened. I personally would not pick up a gun unless I was planning to carry one...I certainly wouldn't play with one or even mess with it.
    Shari and Deon had whatever "their" life was. Not many people will truly know the intimate details of their lives. As a friend or family member of either, you cannot say that you KNOW what did or did not happen. Obviously police are doing their job or it would have been classified as a suicide and be over. Unfortunately I am fairly certain that when a Police investigation is ongoing, they cannot release details to family, friends or the general public. They are most certainly waiting on numerous tests (to include autopsy results), etc. before making any ruling on Shari's death. Everyone should be patient and hold judgement until then. If Deon did not do this, he will be faced with the things that have been said about him in this short time for the rest of his life. If he did do this or was involved/to blame, then he will pay for what he has done in more than one way (loss of his job, his family and friends that he shared with Shari, answering to God and ultimately impacting the rest of his life). This is a terrible time for Shari's family and I personally, as a stranger, feel terrible for their loss and their unanswered questions. But the truth will come out. It almost always does. The Police will complete their investigation and questions than can be answered, will be. Police Officers are NOT above the law and are held to a higher standard when things such as this occur. I pray that questions are answered for the closure that Shari's family will need. It will not ease the loss but will help them understand and move forward without their loved one.
    To the general public, I would say, if you are not a very dear friend or family member of either party..your opinions are just that, OPINIONS. I have mine and I am sure each of you have yours. Allow this family their privacy and do not pass judgement until some of these questions are answered. The truth is...we do not really know!

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  21. I agree with the ones that have said that we should just wait and see what the police investigation reveals. NO ONE knows the truth but I do know that Shari DID in fact play with guns. The incident in December DID happen. People play with guns no matter what color you are. I think Shari would be HIGHLY disappointed if she saw the way her family is acting. Show some class people. Like you all said, the truth will come out! If it comes out that he in fact did NOT do this, Shari's entire family owes this man an open and very PUBLIC appology! Is it so hard to consider that even though it wasn't a suicide, maybe it was an ACCIDENT. Good grief. And for the family to behave the way they did in a house of GOD, you all should be ashamed! It doesn't matter if you think he did it or not, that is nothing short of rediculous and completely unacceptable! In the meantime, all the drama loving people in the family who want their 15 minutes of fame need to stay off the news and keep their mouths shut!

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  22. I feel almost like I should delete all these comments and only allow people to post who are willing to state their names. A lot of things are being said that people would not say if their name was with their words. This is an awful time - for everyone. It seems to me that making it harder for anybody can't help.

    Should I delete these?

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  23. no you shouldn't because i would be more than willing to state my name if needed. my opinion is still my opinion

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  24. I dont think you should delete them and I will give you my name if you want it. Everyone is entitled to our own opinions right? You have this all on a website about domestic violence and this was def not that. It was an ACCIDENT!
    As her FRIEND I have a right to speak about the lies that her family is telling everyone..

    I would like to say that everyone has their own opinions on what happened that day...BUT no one really knows...So with that the FAMILY cant sit there and say that he killed her without EVIDENCE!!!!! The only thing the news was good for in all this was that the arriving officer "stated" it was a SELF inflicting wound. Do I think it was suicide??? HELL NO! It was a freak accident. and who the hell said black woman dont play with guns???? Thats a lie as well! I sat on the couch at a christmas party 6 inches away from shari as she told EVERYONE in that house that deon was making a clicking noise with a gun one day and while he was gone she tried to make that clicking noise too! Well folks the gun went off and shot through her mattress, through the bed frame, through the wall and into one of deons speakers. I could tell of you of about 20 people that sat in that same living room with shari while she told the story. I bet her family was not informed of that. Everyone always has SOME secrets right. You want to talk about abuse??? Funny how her sister one day had a "DREAM" about deon beating shari and what happened next???? She called the whole family and told them that deon was beating her but something was left out of that story....she just so happen to leave out the part that it was a "DREAM" We all loved shari, freinds and family and for someone to tell me that we didnt know her because we werent family is BULLSHIT! So for the person that said they spoke with toya everyday doesnt really have room to talk either. The only things that you heard about her marriage with deon was through toya and in my previous paragraph that just showed right there that SHE is a LIAR! You wanna know the sad part about all of this, other than the fact that her family is trying to frame an innocent man,is that the day of her funeral was supose to be about SHARI! and sadly it wasnt. Her mom and sister made it all about them! Yes its sad that they lost a part of their family but deon lost his WIFE as well!!!!!!! He payed for the funeral they didnt! He didnt even have to allow them at the visitations but he did. They are very disrespectful for the way they acted like wild animals during the funeral. They wouldnt allow deon to tell his wife good bye, but he was nice enough to sit back and watch them give her their goodbyes! Every thing comes back 10 fold and bet that they will be payed back for how childish they acted. So with that...if yall want us to keep our mouths shut and stop defeanding OUR friend you have lost your fucking minds! He didnt do this and you know what JUSTICE WILL BE SERVED and the one that will have justice is deon. Im already pissed enough about how people disrespected SHARI as well as GOD in is OWN HOME! We dont have to be her family to truly LOVE her! We love her and deon both and always will. Stop trying to ruin this mans life! You dont ever have to see him again so why dont you just do us a favor and cease your petty, non evidence accusations. I hope justice comes back to bite you all in the ass for defaming this innocent man! If he is smart he would take them to court. Once again it was very sad to see the day that was suppose to be SHARI's homegoing was all about her mother and sister. You reap what you sew. Going to church every sunday and praying does make you a good christian. You have to obey according to the commandments and you have to have him in your heart. Clearly her family showed neither. The truth will come out and when it does they need to call the news people(seeing how they are GREAT at that) and give deon a PUBLIC apology! You owe the widowed husband that much!

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    Services held for slain wife of Metro officer
    WKRN
    Posted: Mar 21, 2010 6:39 PM PDT
    NASHVILLE, Tenn. – Visitation was held Sunday for the Metro police officer's wife fatally shot last week. Shari Cartmell was found with a gunshot wound to the head Tuesday evening at the home in Madison she shared with her husband, Metro police officer Deon Cartmell. Deon Cartmell, who was decommissioned last week due to what police spokesperson Kristin Mumford said were questions about his mental capabilities, was not at Sunday's visitation. Police said he was home at the time of the shooting and the gun used was not issued by the police department but have not said much more. Shari Cartmell's sister, Antoya Brandon, told News 2 he has talked with investigators but is unable to talk about what he's been told because "of the situation with the case." Shari Cartmell's death has not been classified and the investigation remains open. "I know my sister's in heaven so I can sleep at night," Brandon said. No one answered the door at the couple's home Sunday night. "I don't know exactly what was going on. I don't know if it was an argument I don't know if it was a fight but I know my sister was in good spirits at 3:30 p.m. and I know my sister was dead by 5 p.m.," Brandon said. Gunshot residue tests have been sent to the Tennessee Bureau of Investigation although it will be at least eight weeks until autopsy results are returned. http://www.wkrn.com/Global/story.asp?S=12179561

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  26. To all of you making your comments trying to save that sorry bastard keep them to yourself. You may feel like you know shari but no one knows her like me and her fam you all are just outsiders trying to find justice for someone who is clearly guilty. Besides if it was her handling the weapons incorrectly, then he should have been smart and locked them up or removed them from the home. You people are sick. I wont be happy till he fries.

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  27. I am a cousin of Shari's and would like to ask everyone posting comments to remember regardless of what happened there is a family greiving because a daughter, sister, grand daughter is gone. If you are really friends of Shari and Deon then please respect the family and lets focus on lifting the family up in prayer and let God reveal truth. May peace be with you all.

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  28. i have read all of these comments and everyone, ( family, friends,co workers and by standers) its like is a side to take. he said, she said, i know them, ive known them longer. this is crazy. i myself commented 2 days ago and im at fault aswell. the point is that the world has lost a great person, friend, daughter, wife and sister and more. regardless of what the news says god, shari and deon are the only three that know what really happen that day. i myself truely believe it was a traggic accident and that it my opinion, just as sharis family believes other wise. I want to send my thoughs, prayers, and love to sharis family ( i know how much she loved and talked about you all pretty much everytime time i seen her, she just told me a funny story about her niece about a week and a half ago. so im truely sorry for any comments that i have made that may have hurt you at this awful time. i also want to wish the same to deon, he lost someone too, his partner, soulmate, friend and wife. i have never lost a BEST friend befor, i have lost family though but thats terribly expected through life but this shook me and my husbands world. we will get through this and so will deon and sharis family. i know that god has her now, (i wish she was still here but) i know she is okay and with her father. but like my husband told me 2 days afterwards i miss her but this is not good bye this is a long see you later. we will all see her again and that truely makes me smile, because i know she is smiling down on us now. I love you shari and so thankful to have met you and have you in my life. i will always carry you with me.

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  29. Look, I have known Shari for six years and I don't see how people that say they "know" her can sit on here and post untrue,derogatory statements about her family..ANYONE who TRULY knows Shari knows how much she loved her mother and sister...I don't know what happened because I wasn't there but I do know if this happened to my daughter or siblings I would react the same way and so would most people...Shari's family isn't going to blame Deon just to have someone to blame..they are her family they have known her since birth...longer than friends and way before Deon ever knew her...so in saying that there has been a reason why they have had a problem with him even before her death they didn't just wake up one day and decide to start hating him for no reason...blood is thicker than water...family knows you sometimes better than you know yourself...its in God's hands now...i will just be happy when its over so that sweet precious babygirl can finally rest in peace

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  30. I agree with the last anonymous person. People commit suicide everyday. Tragic accidents happen everyday. If the family did not have a reason to doubt Deon's secerity they would not. Noone know what happened that night. But it is clear, and I think everyone could agree, that Deon is not being completely honest. And evasivness in a case like this is worse than lying. If you are telling the truth then there is nothing to hide.

    As far as the action at the funeral. Has any one asked them self what lead up to the funeral? What the public saw was a reaction to a weeks of lies and misleading action by Deon in regards to the the death and burial of Shari. Again, if you are telling the truth then there is nothing to hide.

    From day one, Deon has made no attempts to make peace with the family. I think that in and of itself would have said alot. But from the moment it has happened he has shielded himself from the family and tried at ever turn to shut them out of the planning of the homegoing. If you have nothing to hide, why are you hiding. If my spouse accidentally died I would have no problem calling my mother in law and sister in law and try to set our differences aside to plan a funeral for my beloved wife. Whom I know they loved dearly. He has not extended an olive branch....

    I am trying to remain impartial but how do you explain those things. Innocent people don't act that way. I think everyone just wants the truth.

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  31. Everybody thinks they know, The News came to the Family the Family never called the news. All the Family wants to know is the thruth on what really happen.

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  32. Could it be the family (Her mother and Sister) are over reacting out of grief Deon never said she committed suicide but accidents do happen!I truly believe Deon is isn't but in actuality do I know this? NO! Just like her family doesn't know he did. Nobody wants to believe a person will take there own life and I don't believe she did, but I do believe she was accidentally shot! Whether the family wants to believe it or not, THEY LOVED EACH OTHER! To the cousin that stated she use to talk to her everyday ans now she doesn't. When you find that 1 person in the world that fits you like a glove, you tend to draw more to them. Its not the he controlled her or that she loved you any less. It's simply his company and THEIR life together is what made her happy! Deon is a respectable young man and if you knew Shari you would know that she had a good head on her shoulder. She would never choose someone who wants worthy of her. God has a plan and it was Shari's time be thankful for sharing a part of her life. The family, her friends, and Deon will hurt for a longtime and each of those catergories shared a different type of love for her. I pray that the truth does come out and justice be served whether it be an open public apology or jail time.

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  33. Bridgette DouglasMarch 24, 2010

    Unlike so many others, I will NOT hide behind an "Anonymous" label. I would like to state that those of you who say that you knew Shari and those of you who say that you know Deion, this is a sad, very sad way of showing your love or hate for either of them. There is a family mourning right now and regardless as to how you feel about either of them or their families, if you knew them, you would not be attacking those that they hold dear...their families! Shari, was indirectly a part of my family, but I don't claim to know what she was ever thinking, who could? Sometimes people keep things to themselves. I do believe that, Shari would not have taken her own life. As far as what went on behind the CLOSED doors of that marriage, only Shari and Deion know. I do know that there are several UNANSWERED questions. However, the General Public is not due those answers, only Shari and deion's families and GOD. The investigation will take place, and whatever the outcome of that investigation, I pray that EVERYONE will accept that and allow God to be the ultimate judge. As far as the funeral, I believe that Shari's family was acting on pure, raw and unbridled emotion. As far as someone saying that they disrespected God's House, the whole world is HIS and we disrespect it everyday. "He who is without sin, cast the first stone". ALL stones should be dropped at this point. This is getting totally out of hand! If anyone would like to comment DIRECTLY to me, my email address is bdouglas112@yahoo.com

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  34. I apologize to the person who tried to post about the insurance. I *did* pass your info on, but it's better left out of these comments.

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  35. I agree with the previous person's comment. Very well spoken. Deon and Shari have always seemed happy to their friends. I know things are different behind closed doors...for anyone not just them. I think what their friends just wanted to know was what evidence was there to automatically start accusing deon of this.I just think that there should have been more to back up what the family was accusing him of before it was blasted across the news. I think that was kind of tacky and distasteful. But I do understand the family...they are grieving. I can't imagine losing a child or a sister. What I do know is that Shari never would have wanted to much fussing and fighting. And even if Deon had decided to try to make ammends with the family, I dont think they ever gave him a chance after she died. I know everyone wants answers and soon we will all have some. I honestly hope and pray that it was an accident. She definitely would not have taken her own life on purpose and i hope he is innocent. As far as friends can see he was a great guy who was fun to be around. Shari previously shared with friends how she was having problems with her mother and sister. I just wish sometimes that people would try to think of others feelings before speaking or acting. He was mourning his wife ..or trying to as he's being drug through the mud. Now if it comes out he really did do this aweful thing, then he can have it. I think everyone should calm down and wait for the test results. I think had he and the mother would have worked together they both could have been up there to close the casket. In realty, I know for a fact that legally all decisions and this includes funeral activities...are left up to the spouse. If her mother and sister wanted to be up there when the casket was being closed he may have said sure if he was just asked. I just hope everyone can respect her and honor her memory by stopping all the chaos and remember her how she was.

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  36. As a relative, I know for a fact that the mother and sister did try to work with Deon to plan the arrangements. Deon did not want nor accept their assistance. Infact, he went out of his way to deny them access to these plans. This was before accusation and insinuations were thrown. Which further lead to their suspicion. And the mother did ask to help close the casket and was refused this right. Legally we all know that the husband has the right to plan the funeral. But morally shouldn't he have involved her grieving family.

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  37. Bridgette DouglasMarch 24, 2010

    I think that the whole funeral thing was mishandled...by the funeral home. For the person who said that the spouse has the final say, that is not entirely true. The person who pays the bill, has the say so. I believe that knowing that there was already "tension" due to the way that Shari died, there possibly should have been a service for both families (i.e. a memorial service and a funeral). As far as Shari sharing with "friends" that she was having problems with her mother and sister, that is such a vague statement. Who doesn't have small quarrels with their family at some point? Do these friends say what the problem where? I doubt it. What I do know is that I have a neice and nephew (Mr. & Mrs. Oliver (Antoya) Brandon, who are devastated by the loss and am deeply offended by all of the incompassionate comments and attacks that are being left on this site. Shari's family, while they may not have been "politically correct" in their response at the funeral, were and are still dealing with such a great loss. If you have NEVER lost a child or a sibling, you cannot accurately speak on what they should or should not do or how they should or should not act. the human emotion is a very complicated thing and if deon DID do this, he deserves to be punished to the fullest extent of the law. If he is not guilty of this, then he is deserving of a happy and productive life. I do not believe that Shari's family owes Deon an apology, because if they believe that he is guilty of this, we have to ask ourselves, what lead them to believe this? Deon and Shari did not live in a "glass" house, they lived in a "brick house" with the shades "pulled", so no one can say what did or did not occur there before this day. As far as the person who said that they were Shari's "friend" and was there when she stated that a gun went off while she was "clicking" it. That, in itself, sounds suspect to me. If a bullet went through the mattress and THEN through the wall and THEN into a speaker, that bullet was making all sorts of turns. It would have made more sense to say that the bullet went through the speaker, THEN into the wall and ended up in the mattress. And even if Shari was being abused in the home, victims of Domestic violence are more times than not very fearful of their perpetrators and DO NOT say or do ANYTHING to discredit them, either out of fear or "fear of known failure". So, who's to say. I don't know and don't pretend to know. But I do know that Antoya and her mother (Charlotte) would GLADLY trade places with any of you who pretend to be Shari's friends all the while attacking her family, and see if you would feel any different or act any different then they have.

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  38. Well said Bridgette

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  39. i heard that

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  40. AMEN BRIDGETTE!!!

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  41. God Bless you and your family. It will be okay, the truth whatever it may be will come to light. I wish you peace and justice, no matter what form it comes in.

    Much love to you all,
    Pixie

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  42. Two wrongs don't make a right and I'm sorry if Deon is not guilty then YES HE DOES DESERVE AN APOLOGY. He didn't lose his daughter or sister he lost HIS WIFE!!!!! Deon wants to tell his side so for all that say he is lying he is not. The call to the police didn't say she committed suicide it said SHE SHOT HERSELF! Thats not saying if its suicide or an accident. He can't comment right now about anything because he has been told not too!

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  43. So where did they get Suicide from?? someone had to tell them. If you dont know what happen you need to chill out and sit back and what on Metro Police to see what happens. And thats all I have to say about that. And if she shot herself the Case would have been close by now.... Plus People it only take a couple of hrs to find out if the gun was in her hands. If you dont know how this works, People need to take a back seat. But just wait and let the Police Close the case , Let them do there job... They are working hard to slove this. Thanks I wish People Will Repect Shari as she Rest in Peace!!!

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  44. Erica Winstead-CarterMarch 28, 2010

    There is so much stuff on here I don't know were to begin. I love Shari, she was my baby cousin more like a sister. My family is truly struggling with this tragedy, and missing Shari very deeply. As for all of the things being said on this site, I dont know what to think. I will say we have a lot of unanswered questions about the circumstances of Sharis' death. I myself am still tyring to wake up out of the nightmare. So to all the folks who keep saying things about my aunt and my cousin, first I want to say, I hope you never lose a sister or a daughter in such a horrible way, and to please give them a chance to grieve. What ever the end result is no one in this situation will win, we have all loss. To my baby girl Shari, you know we love you and you know we love hard.

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  45. I KNOW RIGHT!!! THE PERSON ABOVE U ACT LIKE THEY KNOW THE WHOLE DAMN STORY LIKE THEY GOT ALL THE ANSWERS... PLEASE TELL US WHERE U GET ALL YOUR INFORMATION!!!! AND FOR YOUR INFORMATION U SAYING THAT IS HIS WIFE NOT A SISTER OR DAUGHTER NO DISRESPECT TO SHARI.. BUT U CAN EVENTUALLY GET ANOTHER WIFE. U CAN NEVER EVER REPLACE YOUR OWN DAUGHTER OR SISTER SO WHAT ARE U TRYING TO SAY? RIP SHARI WE MISS U GRL!!!

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  46. ANTOYA BRANDONMarch 29, 2010

    I am just commenting on this because whoever this person is who refuses to say his or her name needs to get a life. I wont go into details but since you know your GOD Deon so well maybe you can ask him why me and him have met several times since SHARIS murder and never once got into anytype of disagreement however, HIS family controlled every inch of my sisters funeral, that by the way she paid for out of HER INSURANCE money and tried to degrade my sister to save her money and disrespected my mother on numerous occassions. And if I hated Deon so much WHY did I send him a plate on Sunday after calling and asking him if he wanted food.I tried to be nice to him for the sake of my sister. No I didnt care for Deon being with my sister because sadly he was NEVER loved therefore he didnt know how to love.Since you know Deon so well ask him about his relationship with his mother.as far as me and my sister being into it, that was all the time and quess why, Thats right, DEON and his controlling ways!!! Her real friends knew about the situation my sister was in and thats why she was forced to hang with your Real Housewives of MPD chicks. Your God aka Deon had actually been banned from one of her FRIENDS house becuase he was so disrespectful to Shari.And as far as me wanting to be on tv,I would have preferred any day to be at home in my bed before DEON called me and my mother hours after my sister was pronounced dead.
    I dont know where you got this mess about me having a dream but anytime I approached Deon and my sister about abuse it was because of proof thats I wouldnt dare even put on here. And by the way If he was so much of a husband why was her cell phone off for a month and she had no means of communication w/o using his cell phone until her family got her a prepaid one. Why was she buried in none of her jewerly and why didnt he know what college she went to, those who know SHARI pointed this out as soon as they read the obiturary but you would not know that would you. Apology wont happen but alot of prayers are going up that the Lord forgives him for his sins!!!!!And you asked for eveidence, nobody owes you anything but prayer becuase clearly you have no idea what you are talking about. You have a right to your opinion but understand you dont really know a thing about Shari or for that matter Deon. Heres a tip ask him his last name stupid. And you my dear need to get a job because clearly you are to engulfed in my sisters death to have time to be on making all of these post. Furthermore, I want you to post your name since you have so much of an opinion and when you husband wacks you I'll be sure to put the same by your name.

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  47. candice jacksonMarch 29, 2010

    Well said Toya,

    As far a giving a public apology, I want to ask all of you people, if it comes back that Deon did do these things. Are you prepared to make a public apology to my family for all of the mean and degrading things you have put on this site. I don't think you are. Some of you have been down right cruel. Will you call Antoya or Charlotte and give your sincere regrets? I don't think you will. And that is okay. You are entiltled to your own opinion. The truth, what ever it is, will come out in the end.

    And for the person who stated that "The call to the police didn't say she committed suicide it said SHE SHOT HERSELF" and "He can't comment right now about anything because he has been told not too!" Please let me know which website you read the 911 transcripts on. If he can't comment, how would you know what he said? Just a little "food for thought". . . .

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  48. Never judge a book by itz cover. Everyone iz innocent until proven guilty. I think that it iz sad what has happened to both families both families has lost a loved one that iz very special to them everyone can comment and voice their own opinion but until a tragedy happens to you or your family u wouldnt want outsiders to make negative comments that you no nothing about everyone iz feeding into what the media has to say unless this situation has happened to you from 1st hand experience all negative comments should be left alone unsaid. Domestic violence iz a touchy situation that only the envolved parties have to sort out amongst themselves the more you try to get an individual to leave someone that is being abusive the more you may push that person into their arms. If they both loved each other thats all that matters.He married her for one reason and that was because he loved her he married her only not the family, therfor after everything has been said and done she stayed with her husband because she loved him and sometimez love will make you do foolish things. Just keep in mind that both families need contstant prayer and no that god makes no mistakes we cannot question the lords work shari is in a much better place where she can rest away from all of the turmal that this tragedy has left on the both sides of the families.The truth will set the record straight for everyone involved just pray for the families thats about the best thing any of us can do @ this point. (and no I dont no either family just keeping an open mind) My deepest sympathy goes out to everyone involved

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  49. Ok I've already tried to post a comment with my name but apparently the person running this blog is in Shari's family and doesn't like Deon either. There are prolly more than just one person posting anonymous (just food for thought there). And the news said that he called the police saying she "shot herself." Go back and watch it if you can find it. And as far as Deon not being able to comment, this is something that he's told everyone that's asked. No one knows what's real and what aint yet.

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  50. Sorry to bust your conspiracy theory that I'm withholding your comment, but the only 2 messages I have withheld were from "anonymous."

    If you wanted to post with your name you would. You don't.

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  51. CANDICE JACKSONMarch 31, 2010

    HEADLINE: "NASHVILLE, Tenn. -- There are questions surrounding the death of a Metro officer's wife. At first, police were told it was a suicide case, but now they aren't sure"

    Thanks for the suggestion "Anonymous"! I went back and watched it. I read the transcripts too. I cut and pasted right off of WSMV's website.

    You can go back and watch it too. In fact there is a link posted near the top of this blog.

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  52. I didnt know Shari or Deon...I heard about this tragedy on the new like so many others. Before I read the comment from her sister I didnt feel the families pain. I thought that because he was a police officer and the media preyed upon the family while they were grieving this whole thing had been blown terribly out of proportion...but the comments directly from her sister made me think...do we really know our "friends" and can we truly comment on or about someone and be sure what we say should be taken as gospel. By the way EVERYONE does not have a right to an opinion. Sometimes we need to keep our opions to ourselves.

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  53. My heart and prayers go out to Deon and Shari's family. To Shari's sister, I can't relate to your pain... but I understand. I didn't know your sister, but I do know Deon. I don't think it’s fair to make that comment about his mother. You can't choose your family. His mother was absent for most of his life due to being incarcerated. That is not his fault. His mother’s sins don’t automatically become his sins because they share the same blood. You and I both know what I mean by this. I will not clearly state it because I choose not to publicize his business. In no way am I defending Deon or attacking you. I wasn’t in that house that day. Neither were you or anyone else who have taken a side. The evidence and reports will speak for itself. Cases like this must take time to ensure accuracy. My wish is that people refrain from making insensitive comments toward Deon and Shari’s family. Accident or homicide, both equal tragedy and loss.

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  54. IN response to Nikki. Having known Deon's situation as far as his mother goes, do you believe that if people really knew that situation, it would change their perception about Deon. Because I do know that situation, to me, it is highly likely and probable that what has been stated about abuse in the Cartmell household could very well be true. I am SO GLAD that my NEICE, ANTOYA BETHEL-BRANDON has posted to address some of the downright cruel. And all of you ANONYMOUS posters say that what Shari's family is doing is cruel and mean. So, what do you think about yourself for attacking them? It makes no sense! My personal opinion is this...I have met Deon and he always seemed a little "off" to me. Having it confirmed of his controlling nature was no surprise to me, I'm just sorry that Shari had to pay the ultimate price for his failure to deal with the issues that he has with his mother and until he does, ALL women, beware!

    Disclaimer: This is my opinion and does not necessarily reflect on the opinions of anyone in the Bethel family.

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  55. I truely feel for shari's family...and deon as well. I didn't know every intimate detail of him and shari's life together..all that is known is what they allowed everyone to see. I don't think it's fair for people to automatically attack Shari's family..but at the same time it's not fair to attack deon either. I agree with those who say let's wait for the results and then we will see. No one here knows the REAL story 100% anyway. We're not God. And regardless of what some may think..everyone DOES have a right to their opinion and you already know they are going to share it. But it's just that..an opinion. People can sit here and argue all day long about what's true and whats not but its not going to matter. All that will matter is what those results come out to be. I think there are members from both "teams" here that are crossing the line here. As far as domestic violence goes, I know about that first hand. At some point tho, anyone with any sense, would find a way out if it was that bad. I don't think Shari was dumb. I believe she was a stronger individual than that...regardless of how much she loved him. If the results point to him being guilty..then he deserves the worst punishment allowable. But if he's not..everyone against him can give it a rest already and move on. But I have a feeling that regardless of the results...people will continue to say they think he's guilty and his friends/family will continue to say he's not. It's just a vicious cycle here...complete nonsense. I know those that cared for Shari loved her more than to let her memory be ruined over repetitive alligations and constant argueing. And Candice...all that the news said was that deon said she shot herself...suicide wasnt mentioned. The police classified it as that at first since it was "self inflicted." I myself don't think it was suicide at all...but i think what deon and his family were trying to say was that it was accidental. Here's the link to the video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GjndZmmdqEw&feature=related

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  56. CHARLOTTE BARBOUR- MOTHER OF SLAINEDApril 03, 2010

    To all those who know so much !!!!!!!Did you sleep with monster or shari, or were u at the family gatherings or should I say shari's family gathering that embraced that monster! I, Charlotte, the victims mother challenge all who take the time to comment on my child and someones household define sociopath. so dont worry about me and mine or family friends who were unfortunate enough to have to interact with a demon. when all else fails I have God on my side. i do not seek or ask for any ones pity I seek JUSTICE!!!!!!!I will have nothing else to say on this site because when all is said and done we all have to bow down and face God one day, please for your own soul be careful of what you say, because you will answer for it when you meet God.

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  57. Shari.........I miss you and your BEAUTIFUL SMILE

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  58. CHARLOTTE.. JUST KNOW WE LOVED SHARI SO MUCH.SHE WILL ALWAYS REMAIN IN OUR HEARTS. WE THAT WORKED WITH HER LOVE YOU AND ARE PRAYING FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY DURING THIS TIME.

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  59. [Comments here on the blog may start overflowing to a 2nd page]

    Facebook memorial page: "Shari Cartmell Memorial. Gone but never forgotten"

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  60. For any and all of you sorry S.O.B.'s talking about "disrespect" that MONSTER DISRESPECTED SHARI'S MOTHER by not having the decency to call her mother and inform her that HER CHILD was involved in an "accident" that happened around 4:40pm, h didn't show up to HER MOTHERS HOME@approximately 9:30pm was THE ULTIMATE DISRESPECT!!!!! Only God,Shari,n Deon knows what happened in that house,BUT HIS REACTION TO THE SITUATION SPOKE A THOUSAND WORDS.....P.S. BLOOD WILL ALWAYS BE THICKER THEN MUD!!! We will always luv u baby girl..

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  61. TO ALL OF U ANONYMOUS PEOPLE leaving your comments about MY COUSIN,1st of all be woman or man enough 2 leave ur name, 2nd of all SHE DID NOT KILL HERSELF NOR DID SHE ACCIDENTALLY SHOOT HERSELF,SHE WAS MURDERED!!! About the incident at her funeral,HAD HER MOTHER,FATHER,SISTER AND THE REST OF OUR FAMILY,HAD NOT BEEN DISRESPECTED,THEN THE altercation wouldnt have taken place!!! A HUSBAND DOESN'T MEAN SHIT 2 ME,HER MOTHER CHARLOTTE BARBOUR GAVE BIRTH 2 HER,SO THEREFORE IF THE COVER WAS GOING 2 BE REMOVED,SHE SHOULD HAVE BEEN THE 1 WHO WAS GIVEN THE OPPORTUNITY BEFORE ANYONE!! SPEAKING ON BEHALF OF MY FAMILY,no doubt we LOVED SHARI DEARLY N SHE LOVED US JUST AS MUCH IN RETURN,By far BITCHES ARE WE IGNORANT,nor did we DISREPECT ANYONE!!! Your comments doesnt mean a damn thing,for u so called friends,u didnt know a damn thing about my cousin,because she wasn't introduced 2 guns,nor around guns until she came across the MONSTER she said I DO 2!!! WITH THAT BEING SAID WE R HURTING DEEPLY,n no doubt n my mind she is looking down on us(her family) knowing we r going to make sure JUSTICE IS SERVED!!! When that day comes,it's not going to fill our broken hearts,but we will b at closure,but we will NEVER 4get how she taken from us!!! We don't have to worry,we know OUR GOD is going to take care of everything,n when he does WE,SHARI BETHEL'S FAMILY WILL SAY WELL DONE!!!! Shari,not a minute,hour,or second goes by that we dont think of u,we MISS u so much! We do know u r n a better place,n may u PLEASE R.I.P. YOUR COUSIN SHAE<3<3<3

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  62. This is my first time posting. I am not the other anonymous person or people. I chose not to put my name on here because just as I don't know you, you don't know me. I myself am apologizing to the family for having conversations about a situation I knew nothing about. When we "outsiders" really think about it, we have family. Sit down and picture yourself getting that call or that late visit saying that close family member, your blood is gone. Not on vacation, not fufilling her dreams but dead. I've experienced death but not my sister, not my kid. Thank you Antoya for bringing it home with your comment. You didn't have to go that deep but it brought it home for me. Everyday I think about this situation and I'm not the family. It's just beyond unfortunate it's a tragedy. I wish people would let the family grieve from day one. Instead the family has literally had to battle with nobodies about a loss they experienced because at the end of the day when you attempt to measure it she carried the birthright Bethel. Not friend, not husband, she carried Bethel blood. I'm a sister and a friend and hope to one day be a mother and I cannot imagine the pain and I wish it didn't have to happen. I know the sister bond Antoya, maybe other people aren't close to their families but if you went as far as to post what you did, I can't imagine the things you didn't post. Sisters know one another. Outside of a mother, the biggest bond to that person is that sibling (if they're a good sibling). I'm so so sorry because I know my sister too and I know what she experiences and what she would and wouldn't do and how love affects her and her in's and out's. Anyone can approach me now and make up a story about my sister that could convince someone else but at the end of the day, they wouldn't come to me with it... why? Because sister's (good one's) always know. My prayers are with the family of Shari and may her soul be at peace with God as she rests in his arms.

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  63. I'm the anonymous person about the sister bond back with a side note:
    I was at the funeral. It is sad to see people commenting and saying what they would and would not do when that's not you in that place. It's not your situation. It's not your heart that's aching and broke neither is it you who is sitting on that front row. You put yourself in their shoes and realize that your pain could've drove you further than a little disagreement at the funeral service. It's been worse things to occur for much less of a tragedy than Shari's death. I myself have made my apology to the family and I haven't even posted anything negative or argumentative to them on Facebook or this website. I have simply had voiced my opinion in the walls of my own household and I apologized because something has to be done about people making the situation worse. I don't want to be grouped in with a bunch of people who make these horrible allegations or take sides and I haven't even went that far. It's not fair what they've had to endure. the short time that she has been gone seems like a lifetime to them therefore us "outsiders" have no place in putting our MOUTH on the situation. WITH THAT SAID YOU WILL HEAR NO MORE FROM ME. RIP SHARI BETHEL

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  64. First I want to say is how can u say u luv Shari n ur disrespectin her fam. No matter how u feel bout the situation Shari luvd her fam dats all she eva talkd bout, so u can't possibly luv her treatin her fam dis way. I am a very close friend of Shari ive known her for yes n if anyone acted like dis towards her fam she would have a problem wit u. Victims of domestic violence don't tell the truth bout problems they r havin wit a spouse but when there is proof then wat. Her fam tried gettn her out but luv is blind!! If u just met Shari u didnt know her u were just an associate!Shari n I were very close n I'm tired of u FOOLS disrespectin Shari n her family!! Shari I luv u baby n u kno it!!

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  65. Antoya, I'm still praying!

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  66. Cousin RosieApril 08, 2010

    Shari IS and will always be loved by her family...I'm praying for comfort and peace of mind for our family knowing that GOD is working...Peace! Be still...Love you Shari

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  67. Tangela,I'm speaking on behalf of our (Shari's fmily) thank u so much 4 evrything u n Shari's REAL FRIENDS has done 4 her!!! Im struggling as well as the rest of our family trying 2 deal with the loss of our ANGEL SHARI!I try not 2 come on here because the hurt n pain WE R STILL GOING thru pisses me off 2 read what these IGNORANT,NOT KNOWING DAMN THING PEOPLE R SAYING!! Just know GOD has us n its going 2 all work out,BELIEVE THAT!!! 2 Bridgette n all the other FAKE ASS PEOPLE LEAVING COMMENTS,ON BEHALF OF MY FAMILY,KISS OUR ASS N STAY OFF HERE WITH YOUR BS!!!! Shari,baby girl u know ur fam, WE LUV U N WILL NOT LET ANYONE DISRESPECT U!! R.I.P.

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  68. Bridgette, your the only 1 who gets an apology, Im sorry, I MEANT FUCK WHAT BRITTANY N THE REST OF THE FAKE ASS FRIENDS HAS 2 SAY!!! Brigdette,HELL UR FAMILY!!! LOL...I was so pissed the last time I just remembered the name started with B,VERY VERY SORRY BRIDGETTE!:)

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  69. I hope something is determined soon.

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  70. I feel the pain associated with what the Bethels are going through and the loss of someone so close to them and dear to their hearts. I lost my father and know the pain that goes along with that and the pain associated with determining exactly what happened. At the end of the day, people need to respect the family and leave the opinions off of this website and keep it to yourselves. If you feel the need to share your opinion then you should share it with your own friends or family rather than posting it on this site. This is not accomplishing anything productive because all that is happening is hateful messages being passed back and forth on this site. This site is to remember those who have lost their lives. Not to lay blame or pass anger back and forth. In a time of need, such as this, the family should be spending their time grieving and figuring out how to move forward without someone they thought they would have in their lives for a long time. They should not feel as if they need to defend their loved one or dispute opinions on a website meant for remembrance. The anger that is being placed back on and forth on this website, whether by family, friend, or anonymous needs to stop. Please use this site for its intended use...to remember those who have lost their lives. It will be pretty soon that the Police and other officials involved will have completed their investigation and the truth will come out. God will deal with that truth...and his consequence will be much harsher and effective than any of the words or opinions on this site. Let the family grieve and remember those who lost their lives.
    Thank you.

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  71. AnonymousMay 05, 2010

    Well I guess it's over.

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  72. To anonymous (may 5) No our pain is not over, our lives are not back together, our family is not whole, my aunt is not the same, my cousin is not the same, my family has not and will not get over this devastating loss any time soon. Shari was our baby.....people you could not understand I lost not just my cousin but my sister on March 16 2010. Even here in Louisville, I see her every where, I think about her all day and every day, as does the rest of my family. So no it's not over and never will be.......R.I.P. Baby Girl I love You Always

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  73. Shae BarnetteMay 18, 2010

    Erica,cuz you are so right! Hell no,by far is it OVER,so to the anonymous person that posted on 5-5-2010,"WOW I GUESS IT'S OVER",whoever you,it's not by far! Our whole family is hurting,and her mom and sister hasn't began to get better! You may have experienced a loss before,but if you have never lost a child,then you can determine nor say SHIT IT OVER!!! When I see the hurt and pain in my cousin(Charlotte Barbour,Shari's mom),DONT U DARE EVER SAY ITS OVER!!!! This is such a devastating tragedy,n it will never b the same!!!! Shari,lil cuz,I know your looking down on us,and you know u gotta a FAMILY THAT WILL RIDE TIL THE END OF TIME 4U,cause you would do the same 4 us!!!! We luv u n missing u more and more each day!!! R.I.P.

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  74. Don't let that post get to you. I've been doing this awhile and sometimes people do that just to get people to talk and tell where things are. I bet that's what that is.

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  75. Bridgette DouglasMay 28, 2010

    FIRST DEGREE MURDER!!! Now, where are ALL of you FUCKING NAYSAYERS at!? You ALL owe Shari's family an apology, but you know what...F**K YOU ALL...WE DON'T NEED OR WANT IT!

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  76. Cousin RosieMay 28, 2010

    Deon Cartmell indicted for 1st Degree murder of Shari Cartmell May 28, 2010...the train to justice has left the station

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  77. Shae BarnetteMay 28, 2010

    Well I must say WHAT AN AWESOME GOD WE SERVE!!!! Shari,baby girl,u may now rest!!! The BASTARD was arrested 2day 1ST DEGREE MURDER!! U know the fam,we r all over joyed,because at least now we have closure!!! U get the must needed rest u been needing,all the times u had 2 deal with his BS,it's ALL OVER!!!I keep saying if only u had told,but I know ur n a much better place!! Til we meet again,n 1 day we will....I luv u,n of course the fam is gonna continue 2 ride n hold it down 4 u!!! NOW LETS ASK HIS FRIENDS....WHO HAS THE LAST LAUGH!!!!! JUSTICE HAS PREVAILED!!!

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  78. TO ALL YOU WHO THOUGHT THAT SHARIS' FAMILY WAS SO CRAZY AND UNFAIR......EAT SHIT.....WE ARE NOT CRAZY AND AS YOU SHOULD KNOW BY NOW THAT BASTARD IS IN JAIL FOR MURDER IN THE 1ST DEGREE WITH A 300,000 BOND NOW LETS SEE WHAT REALLY HAPPENED........

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  79. I guess everyone of u disrespectful ppl now c u were wrong!!! Deon is now in jail for FIRST DEGREE MURDER!!!So IT IS NOT OVA ITS JUST BEGINNING!! I think all of u ppl who talked bout my best friends family look like sum damn fools... The test proved he did it.. So tell me how much u really know bout him cuz wat u thought was completely wrong!!! Now he is going to pay n more ways than one!!! Justice Has Prevailed!! Now my Shari fly on n enjoy heaven!! I luv u baby always n forever!!!

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  80. Deon Cartmell was arrested last night and charged with 1st degree MURDER.. To all those who were so sure of his innocence and who were so disrespectful to my grieving family.. "Fuck Y'all"! So who owes who an apology now?

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  81. AnonymousMay 29, 2010

    to all the people that doubted our family and our faith....I HOPE U WATCH AS THE LORD WORKS IT OUT...just to update you deon cartmell has been arrested for 1st degree premeditated murder.....you bitches disrespected our family and now we are STILL laughing at you.....rip shari we love and we'll still be "ghetto" or whatever when it comes to anybody in our family...smooches stephanie

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  82. AnonymousMay 29, 2010

    Decommissioned Metro officer arrested for wife's murder

    NASHVILLE, Tenn. – Decommissioned Metro police officer Deon Cartmell was arrested Friday night charged with killing his wife several months ago.

    Homicide detectives arrested Cartmell on a grand jury indictment charging him with first-degree murder in the shooting death of his wife, Shari Cartmell, 24, inside their Saunders Avenue home in Madison on March 16.

    She was found that evening with a gunshot wound to the head.

    Deon initially claimed that she died of a self-inflicted gunshot wound as they were sitting on a couch in the living room.

    An investigation showed that Deon's account did not match up with the evidence.

    He graduated from the police academy last July and was assigned to the East precinct.

    He was decommissioned from his patrol duties the day after the shooting.

    During the investigation, Deon Cartmell was also placed on administrative assignment to his home with access restricted to the police department facilities.

    Cartmell is being held in the Metro Jail on $300,000 bond.

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  83. There was only one right thing that could happen in the sad circumstances and that was Deon Cartmell's arrest.

    I'm relieved.

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  84. AnonymousMay 30, 2010

    Hopefully the whole truth comes out so there will be no questions!

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  85. We will Neva get the truth as to y... He will Neva tell the truth cuz his ass a coward!!! As long as his ass pay for his low down shit he did I'm happy!!! Rachel, heather, Dominic n who Eva else wat u bitches gotta say now??? Not shit I didn't think so... Fuc u n ur apologies cuz Shari's fam don't need it.... They got his ass n jail so its on n his ass bout to pay n more ways than one!!!! I'm one of Shari's real friends who luvs her, had her back,n always will!!! Don't feel sorry for Shari n her fam feel sorry for urself n Deon fam cuz u all need it!!!A real friend of Shari always knew the truth we didn't need proof,but u bitches got it.. Dat bastard is gone pay!!! I luv u Shari ya fam n tru friends holdin it down!!! Rest ur pretty lil head cuz u have down ur job, well done my luv!!! I luv u always n 4eternity!!!

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  86. AnonymousMay 30, 2010

    Wow.... I guess you guys did not know Deon as well as you thought. But, we knew Shari. Deon's arrest was the best Memorial Day present our family could of ever had. @Tangela: Rachel, Heather, Dominic, and the rest of his entourage are not on here because they are at the post office buying stamps, paper, and pens to write to their boy. Pick Deon up some vaseline while your at it. He's gonna need it.

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  87. AnonymousMay 30, 2010

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  88. AnonymousMay 31, 2010

    Tangela isn't in Deon entourage. Tangela loves Shari more than he ever did.

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  89. Hi-Ho HI-ho its off to jail you go.....and drop the ho!!!!!!!

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  90. To the Anonymous person... I Tangela don't fuc wit Deon... I am Shari's friend so u need to do more research n get ur facts straight.. I luv Shari n always will... Know wat u r talkin bout before tangela cum out ur lips or maybe u need to go back through the blog n read everything I have Eva wrote n check me out on Facebook!! I ride for Shari all day every day... N if u know her family u betta ask bout me!!! I fucs wit Shari toya n mama charlotte so don't do me... Please mind u or don't say shit at all.. No thank u, but u welcome!!!

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  91. AnonymousMay 31, 2010

    Police officer arrested for killing wife, family reacts
    Posted: May 29, 2010 9:55 PM CDT

    NASHVILLE, Tenn. - It's been two months since Charlotte Barbour lost her 24-year-old daughter Shari Cartmell.

    Police believe Shari was shot and killed by her husband, Deon Cartmell, who was a Metro officer at the time.

    Barbour said, "It's settling in with me and her sister and the rest of my family that Shari's gone and that justice is going to be served."

    Investigators said Shari was shot in the head inside the home she shared with her husband on the afternoon of March 16.

    The Police Department decommissioned Deon Cartmell after the shooting, while they investigated.

    This week, a grand jury indicted Cartmell charging him with first-degree murder.

    Metro detectives arrested him Friday night.

    Shari's family dismissed early speculation that she may have killed herself.

    At a visitation for Shari in March, family members told News 2 they suspected Deon Cartmell's involvement.

    The family has now hired an attorney and is not commenting on the specifics of the case, but Barbour is grateful to investigators, "for stepping up to the plate and investigating."

    Barbour is still coming to terms with the fact that her youngest daughter is gone, and so are those who knew her.

    This month, colleagues at Skyline Medical Center where Shari worked as an ER Registrar, remembered her in their newsletter.

    Barbour says she is hopeful now there will be justice for Shari.

    She added, "Trust God that the truth will come out. Trust God."

    Deon Cartmell is being held in the Metro Jail on $300,000 bond.

    Family members say there's a tree planted for Shari at Hunters Lane high School where she graduated.

    A small ceremony is scheduled for Monday afternoon.

    http://www.wkrn.com/Global/story.asp?S=12566479

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  92. AnonymousMay 31, 2010

    how long does something like this usually take to go to court

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  93. AnonymousJune 01, 2010

    im so happy shari family got justice she was a beautiful young lady and just to let deon know you havent felt the raft yet your suffering is not over yet u gone get it in prison and in hell but R.I.P shari and be happy you are away from that coward because he didnt deserve a beautiful lady like you anyway Rest on my girl enjoy heaven because i know thats where you are. Love cleo

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  94. I'm not sure of what happened with my friend.... hard evidence always tells a story. The story I never wanted to hear, see, or believe. So senseless..

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  95. This is all sooo much... I just wish there was a way to rewind time.. and maybe things could have been avoided..

    Sad to realize that the cycle continues... and a host of relatives and friends are paying the price...

    Justice always has it way of showing up on time.

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  96. AnonymousJune 01, 2010

    @Tangela: I wasn't grouping you in with his entourage, I was answering your questions/comment! You said "Rachel, heather, Dominic n who Eva else wat u bitches gotta say now???" I was telling you what they are doing. It's all love : )

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  97. @ Anonymous 6-1-10.. Oh ok I c dat now.. I gotta lot of emotions built up n didn't realize wat was said... I'm filled wit happiness cuz the bitch n jail,but a lot of hurt sadness emptiness n anger cuz of wat he did to her.. Me n Shari had so many plans together n he took dat away from us all.. I'm sorry for the comment I didn't understand n I saw my name next to the bitches my feelings were hurt n i felt disrespected. Ur rite it is all luv. Thanks for making me understand wat was wrote.. We love u Shari!!!!!

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  98. [TN] Nashville Police arrested their own Officer Deon Cartmell and the grieving family of his murdered wife Shari are thankful
    http://behindthebluewall.blogspot.com/2010/06/tn-nashville-police-arrested-their-own.html

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  99. Antoya Brandon/sisterJune 02, 2010

    As sharis sister I would like to thank all of sharis real friends who knew the story from the beginning. there was no need to hear what anyone had to say because when you are spiritually contected with people you know what they are capable of. Im not sure how long the trial will be but Im sure we will be there everyday. I cry and my mama cries everyday to think someone who we allowed around us would hurt Shari. shari was my bestfriend, my sister. I do pray for Deon's soul because Im a Chrisitan (despite me cursing whoever crossed my sister out)and I know his family is about to go through it to know what type of evil monster they had around them all this time. However, they will be able to visit him. I along with my family am forced to have conversations with pictures until we are blessed enough to see shari again. Her neice monica will NEVER know her aunt shari except through videos and pictures. she will never have children, she will never travel out of the country she will never become a vet! she will never play with crissy again!! So may he rot in prison until he meets the devil. I am so thankful that the detectives were the wonderful men they were!!!

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  100. Tony WareJune 04, 2010

    They say revenge is a dish best served cold...And in this case vengence is all the LORD's. It hurts soooo bad to know my lil cuz will never smile or see life again. Taken so soon. And the nerve of some of you (Ur names have been dropped up above)... To belittle her life by assuming she would possibly hurt or kill herself. Its one thing to support family, but right is right and wrong is wrong. As christians, we're all the same family. I suggest you guys pray for Deon as we will be too. You see, regardless of the pain, our hearts and souls as christians will still pray for a lost soul such as Deon's. Even a coward or battered soul such as Deon's.

    I'd also like to add that my cousin's partna Tangela is a member of the family! You are a ride or die friend and you seem like blood family. We love u!

    Shari you will always be missed and loved dearly. This will never seem real as I can hear your sweet and funny lil laugh right now. I remember you eating toothpaste as a child like it was going outta style. Or the salt fettish...;) Smile down on us and pls come and visit from time to time. Your momma and sista miss you like crazy girl! And you know Livi is wildn out...;)

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  101. I think it's interesting that the people who, "swore" to know exactly what happened have not yet commented about his conviction. The evidence said, NO WAY POSSIBLE she could have even shot herself. An apology to the family is a great start. I know your pride is probably hurt b/c you thought you were right, but it's not as bad at the hurt that Shari's family feels. That's why they were upset at the funeral! Some of you have called my home girl, Antoya, a liar. It pays to know the truth. That's why I'm glad that it's out now. To be honest, I don't think we've seen nothing yet. So, to all the people who played Shari's fam to the left, I pray God gives you the ability to accept the truth. It hurts, I know, but acceptance is the start to healing. Shari's family is accepting a painful truth each and every day they wake up and don't hear her voice, or see her smile. To Shari's fam, I'm praying for you guys! Yes, you were played to the left, but there's nobody like God. He saw you being played to the left; which is why Shari now sits on his right hand. Psalms 121 says that God is your keeper and the shade upon your right hand! To everyone involved, I pray peace over you! In Jesus's name. Amen.

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  102. @ Tony I really appreciate the love from ur family.... I go hard n tell it like it is cuz I kno my Shari would do the same for me. I don't kno the pain ur family is feelin but I know as Shari's friend the pain I feel. Shari was gone help me plan my wedding n now she gon since the ninth grade dats been my homie. I luv all of u for accepting me into ur family as one of ur own... If its the last thing I do I'm gone keep her memory alive... I luv y'all n i pray every nite dat we all find peace n strength knowin she is n a better place n she gets justice. I luv u all n its a promise.

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  103. AnonymousJune 11, 2010

    Deon hasn't been convicted of anything so to all of you that say FUCK YOU, FUCK YA DUMB ASS right back! Justice will be served and I have never wished this pain on anyone but enough is enough. Just to be real no one knows what really has happened but Deon, Shari and The Lord. I STILL LOVE DEON TO DEATH AND I WILL RIDE WITH THE FACT THAT HE SAID HE DID NOT DO IT! HE LOVED THAT GIRL MORE THAN ANYTHING! FREE DEON FREE DEON FREE DEON!!!!!!!!

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  104. Antoya Brandon/sisterJune 11, 2010

    sure hope you were in court today like the rest of us ...tell him get his story right!!!! Even serial killers have fans so Im not even mad that you stand behind your friend, and please look up the word indicted. People believe what they want and thats your right just please keep that off of here. this is a place to remember Sharis memory not FREE the man who is accussed of killing her. and I think you should be careful how you use the word love, plenty people use and have no idea what it means. Just my advice.
    Tan: love you forever and thanks for being in sharis corner from HL til now
    Tony: i know Del and nicki greeted her so shes having a good time!!!

    and the anonymous stuff is soooo overrated

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  105. AnonymousJune 11, 2010

    steph says to 6/11/10 state your name.....and fuck u too and his lyin ass....words are just words so its whateva...MY GOD IS A MIGHTY GOD AND MY COUSIN WAS AND IS BLESSED AND HIGHLY FAVORED AND TRULY LOVED BY GOD AND HER FAMILY SO THATS ALL THAT REALLY MATTERS....anyti way go get your nutty ass people help with his wierd ass...you can always love him and thats good and cool thats your people but if you don't have that bread ummm well he'll be there.

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  106. AnonymousJune 11, 2010

    TO MY WONDERFUL COUSIN TONY (ya'll need one these cousins in your family)I LUV YOU SOO MUCH YOU ARE SO POSITIVE AND JUST A GREAT PERSON....I FEEL TH SAME ABOUT TANG SHE HAS RODE WITH THE FAM FROM DAY ONE AND SHE IS AN HONORARY COUSIN!!! LOVE U TANG...TO HAYLEY THOSE WORDS WERE POWERFUL AND WE REALLY APPRECIATE THAT.....BUT THIS FAMILY WILL ALWAYS BE AS ONE....DEAD OR ALIVE REAL FAMILY STICKS TOGETHER....STEPHANIE

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  107. AnonymousJune 12, 2010

    RIP Shari

    You will never be forgotten. I experienced domestic violence just as you did ,but by the grace of god was able to get out in time. I can completely understand how you may have felt. Eve said it right (LOVE IS BLIND). Speaking from personal experience I know that it does'nt matter how much people tell you to leave and move on that the love you have for that person will cause you to stay. It's sad ,but it's true. I'm sorry that you had to go through what you went through with this monster. Know that you will always be missed and that your friends and family will all see you again. We love you Shari. Hunters Lane C/o 2003

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  108. [TN] NASHVILLE POLICE OFFICER DEON CARTMELL CAN'T GET HIS STORY STRAIGHT...

    http://behindthebluewall.blogspot.com/2010/06/tn-officer-cartmell-cant-get-his-story.html


    "...I told her to put the F-ing gun down... I was in the kitchen and I heard a shot. My wife shot herself... He was in the closet putting up the AL-15 when he heard a shot..."

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  109. AnonymousJune 13, 2010

    To anonymous 6-11, Forensics do not lie. The gun was not in her hand. That leaves few other options. You were right about one thing "no one knows what really has happened but Deon, Shari and The Lord". We can only speculate about how/why he did it. Also, the truth does not change. If Deon was telling the truth, his accounts of what happened would have remained constant from day 1. It's okay to love your friend. But friend do horrible things all the time. RIP Shari .

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  110. To Anonymous 6-11... SHARI was much more than that girl...she was my cousin, the little girl that I took with me almost every where I went, she was the little girl who slept in my bed with her thumb in her mouth, the little girl who I took to the criss-cross concert all dressed with her clothes on backwards.... I could go on and on but all I want you to understand is that SHARI WAS LOVED TO DEATH AND WILL BE LOVED AFTER DEATH AND THAT THIS FAMILY WILL RIDE WITH THE FACT THAT ONLY TWO PEOPLE WERE IN THE HOUSE AND ONLY ONE HAD THE GUN........YOU DO THE MATH

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  111. Trina (trina-bullock@yahoo.com) I don't know Shari, Deon or any of the family members in person. But, in my heart, I feel like I do, more so Shari and her family. I have kept up with this tragedy since day one, first time on the computer (believe it or not), but all the other times on my cell phone. Therefore, I never had the opportunity to see the videos, etc., until today. While watching that video of Shari, I literally cried because somehow, I connected with her. Now, I will get away from the emotional side of it and encourage the families, friends and enemies. As a Christian, I must say that we have to continue to pray and pray hard for Deon. Pray that he comes to know GOD as his true LORD and SAVOIR JESUS CHRIST. The Bible says to love your enemies. I know there is a lot of hate, but we must ask GOD to remove it. No one has to like him, but you have to love him (the WORD of GOD says so). Vengeance is not ours, but it is the LORDS. Let GOD fight this battle. GOD is a forgiving GOD, he forgives murderers, and every other sin. But, that doesn't mean he will not reap what he haa sown. No one will do it better than GOD, so let go, and let GOD have HIS way in this situation. We all need to strive to get where Shari is, that is HEAVEN. We have to ask GOD to help us control the things we say, especially if we are Christians. Trust me, GOD will do it all. It hurts the devil more when we pray for our enemies than when we allow him to get the best of us with anger, emotions raging, etc. So, with all of this said, take it to heart in a positive way and not a negative way. GOD is too good to allow the enemy to cause us to waste our energy with cursing, putting each other down, etc. GOD has it all under control. Just pray and love. You don't have to like, but you have to love. May GOD bless everyone. And, know that you all are in my prayers.

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  112. AnonymousJune 28, 2010

    Dear shari my big cousin my big sister because that what u were to me u r my idol. U and toya are my two favroit cousins. If I could I would bring u back even if I had to risk my own life for u. I loved u so much words can't even explane how I felt about u. I would give every thing up to have u back. I wish I could have been there for u to help u and to protect u from the devil that day. Deon didnt see that u needed love to he was to busy worried about what u were doing when he no he was the one doing wrong. He didnt see what he had he didnt see that u r every thing some one would want in a person. U were the best thing to me in my life and it just won't be the same with out u. At partys, when we have BBQ and when we all just hang around the house and just talk. Its always gone be some thing missing and that's u. If I had one wish it would be to bring u back. I wish I could spend another day with u to see u smile to hear u lough and to hear your voice again. Your smile could light up a room. When u lough every one loughs. Your voice was the most beautiful voice ever. Just u being there ment world to me. Your person ality u acted like a kid. I guess that's why u were my favorite cuz u do things that kids would do. I'm not saying u always play cuz when its time to get down u do ur thing. U mean the world to me and no one could ever replace u. U r one in a million and I will never for get the things u showed and taught me. One thing is for shore love is forever. I'm so glade u were in my life. One day we will share that love again. I'm pround to call u my cousin. U had my back and I had yours. I love u and always will. Brittany

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  113. AnonymousJune 28, 2010

    This message is to Antoya Brandon. I am the anonymous writer on 6/11/10. I want to personally apologize for lashing out. I do realize and sympathize with what your family is going through. I knew your sister and I know Deon and actually had the pleasure to be around them and seen how happy they were. I should have never lashed out. I love Deon and was growing to love your sis because she was apart of his life and for the person she was. No family should have to go through this and I PERSONALLY APOLOGIZE.

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  114. Tan,u know u r family,n we TRULY thank u 4 being a TRUE friend 2 Shari! Tony,cuz u left a wonderful message! Brittany,lil cuz,that's the 1st time I've heard u speak out about the situation,n u had me n tears!!! 2 all my family,I love u all so much,n know outsiders will ever realize how we r such a strong family, n this ride we're riding 4 Shari,if it were one of us,she would do the same!! we are still hurting n alot of pain,but I know God is gone work it out 4 us!!!

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  115. AnonymousJune 29, 2010

    It's hard for people who thought they knew someone to imagine them as a murderer. But what is, is.

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  116. AnonymousJune 29, 2010

    I'm speaking from the heart the way that I felt about shari no one would ever understand. It was like meeting a famous person for the first time. That filling u get when ur about to get something new or when u get on a rollercoaster. I always had butterfly when I got around shari. I was always happy to see her I could never wait. It was like being able to hang out with a famous person for a day u can't wait to see them and when u do it leaves u speech less. That how I felt when I would see shari she was that famous person to me. I would do things so that shari would be proud of me cuz I wanted her to look at me like I look at her. When I would go to the store with her weather its the mall or what ever I felt that all eyes were on us. I used to say in my head that my cousin. I would say in my head keep looking cuz u wish she was your cousin but she's mine. Shari was my star and u loved her very much I got her name on my arm that's how much I love her. When she died I felt like my hole world was crushed. One minute she's there and the next u telling me my idol is dead. Words can't even tell u that filling I had. When they told me that I was in shock. I was suppose to spend the summer with her. She text me and told me to come and I told her yes. I wanted to spend my birthday down there I told my mom to tell her that. But what a gift I got my cousin was buried on my birthday and now I have to live with that forever.I love u shari
    Brittany

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  117. AnonymousJune 29, 2010

    Hey Toya,
    This is your cuz in IL, Louise daughter, Niecy.
    So glad to hear that he is where he belongs. So grateful to hear that some justice follows. Keep your head up and take care.
    I will never have the pleasure of meeting Shari, he took that. Keep us posted.
    Love you All

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  118. AnonymousJuly 04, 2010

    There are many victims in Shari's shooting death. The worse thing in world to me is hear a mother cry for a child she will never see alive again. I am Shari oldest cousin Tarlaine. My heart broke when I had to see my anut cry. My heart was rip from my chest when Shari was killed. Every one has suffered behind this matter. But, no one should have denied my aunt or Toya. There one last kiss, or touch was stolen from them. I am glad, I was able to have one last sunday dinner with Shari. She was happy,and to see toya and shari together lifted my heart.

    We can't undo what has been done, My heart will be forever broken, but i will never forget the last few week we spent together. There no doubt in my mind that my sister Monica and Shari, are together in better place. We have a strong family we will get threw this.

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  119. AnonymousJuly 07, 2010

    what did they offer him today if anybody know

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  120. AnonymousJuly 07, 2010

    Shari was an amazing person and no sick bastard can take that away. Funny how peoples opinions change once the story changes...fact is...for HER friends and family the story is the same. Our eyes have ALWAYS been open and always will be. My heart goes out to those who LOVE Shari

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  121. AnonymousJuly 16, 2010

    No one ever said she committed suicide, It was said that she ACCIDENTALLY shot herself, get your stories straight!!!!!!!!!!

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  122. AnonymousJuly 16, 2010

    It doesn't matter what the lie was anymore.

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  123. To person July 16... no matter wat the bitch ass nigga told police it was a lie from the beginning... evidence proves dat he did it n can't shit change dat.... u must b one of his friends who just can't except the truth... we all know the truth hurts but face the facts... he may not have said suicide but he said she did it... now he has to deal wit it here on earth n when he dies..... me being one of her close friends knew she didn't do it....we her family n friends r still hurting months later.. its getting harda for me as time goes by.... ur hurt to Cuz u don't want to believe he did it but sweetie he did... he has yet told tha truth nor will he eva.. hes not even remorseful. Whether u like it or not he's a murderer n has to pay... Shari didn't deserve wat he did to her... he wont b able to live wit himself Cuz of wat he did nor should he b able to Cuz we can't.... u may luv him n can't deal wit tha truth but put urself n our shoes n think bout how u would feel..... to bad u can't Cuz u weren't Shari's friend... Shari we luv u always.. he cant take dat from u or us.....

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  124. Tangela said it best. A lie is a lie, the truth doesn't change. Now you and that sick monster get your STORY STRAIGHT! then again when you gave 4 its hard to pick one. Tarlaine that Sunday will never be forgotten she was so spoiled she had me cook her a seperate meal. I remember looking at ads on the floor and picking out stuff we wanted. I can't have my bestfriend back, and my heart is broken but im so glad my sister knew I loved her and I knew she loved me. For the person who asked he wasn't offered a deal they decreased his bind to 250k but he is still in thank God.

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  125. jarontez macroryJuly 21, 2010

    so when is the trial

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  126. AnonymousJuly 21, 2010

    i personally know deon i been knowing him for years but let me say this i dont care if we are friends or not if he commited this crime like the investigators say he should be punished she was a beautiful girl with plenty of potential she didnt get to have any kids nor did she get the opportunity to enjoy the rest of her life but as a christian i am still going to love deon regardless but the ten commandments said thou shall not kill and for that being said he should be punished and he will be first degree murder is not nothing to play with he is looking at about 51 years to life and going to prison as a cop is not good but im praying for his family and definately sharis family i love yall toya stay strong i know its hard but god will see you through and tangela i see you were a good friend to her good friends are hard to come by these days im praying for you also but im not here to try to make enemies im just here to let the family know that i am praying for you kuz i know its hard to lose a family member and especialy like that and i am also praying for you to deon and his family i just wished you all could have worked things out instead of handling things the way that you did

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  127. No idea when the trial will be,possibly over into next year. Anonymous 7-21 thank you for your prayers they are needed.

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  128. reynaldo ewingJuly 22, 2010

    to 7-21 usually murder trials are a year and a day from the time they commited the crime

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  129. @ 7/21... I along wit Shari's family appreciate ur respectfulness to her fam n friends even though u r close to him. Dis has been a struggle for us all n it's hard to deal wit.. Ur one of the only ppl who knows him who hasnt said nething hateful towards her family n friends n i can respect dat. Ur rite she had so much more life to live n she can't. She wanted kids but he didn't want to give her ne. As her bday gets closer it gets harder for her family n friends Cuz she should b here celebrating wit us not us doing sumthin n her memory. We all neef prayer her family n friends n his as well... but no one will eva know how it feels.. we don't want to make enemies but we do wsnt ppl to respect her family n the fact dat wat he did was heartless when all she did was luv him through everything. He will neva know tru luv again. I pray we all especially her mom n sis who i luv dearly find peace strength n comfort as we go on wit life knowing she us n heaven.. mama Charlotte n toya I luv y'all n I'm here til tha end!!!!!!

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  130. AnonymousJuly 28, 2010

    I haven’t posted my opinion on here because I can honestly say I don’t know what happened in that house that day. I consider both Shari and Deon friends. Do I say I KNOW them no I don’t. There is always things that go on in relationships no one knows about that goes for friends and family. I am sure there are things about their relationships and them personally that family knows and friends don’t just as well as there are things friends know that the family don’t. First I want to say I don’t know of anyone that ever thought Shari tried to kill herself everyone knows she wouldn’t do that. Second I want to say if indeed Deon purposely killed her he needs to man up and say so and pay for it. But as a friend of Deon’s that could have never seen him doing anything like this on purpose and being a cold blooded killer I want to say when we as friends say we don’t think Deon did this on purpose we don’t mean he shouldn’t pay if he did this. We all want the truth too. We are not saying we want him to be not guilty when court time comes if he truly did this. We just don’t what could have been an accident turned in to 1st degree murder and no one can fault anyone for their opinion. Its not like we are saying we want a guilty man to walk we are just saying we cant see him doing it but if he did he needs to take the punishment the courts give him and be praying to God for forgiveness. Lastly I would like to say I am truly sorry to all Shari’s family and friends for the loss of such a beautiful person inside and out it was truly a blessing to know her and her awesome smile

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  131. You said all of that to say:
    "...We just don’t [want] what could have been an accident turned into 1st degree murder..."

    What will be will be.

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  132. To 7/28 As a family it breaks our heart to think that the man that was supposed to love Shari and protect Shari could have killed her. With that being said, I work every day with victims of domestic violence and most of them recant their stories to protect the abuser. When Deon and Shari were married this family accepted him with open arms. The only thing we asked of him was to cherish our daughter, granddaughter, sister, neice and cousin. And yet here we are today. As far as their relationship goes, you are exactly right there are things that go on that we may know nothing about, but we as a family know Shari. As far as the truth goes it seems pretty simple to me, since we know she didnt shoot herself and there was only one other person in the house, and that one person told several different stories and never mentioned that HE may have accidentally shot his wife..............yeah we want the truth too!!!!!!

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  133. HAPPY 25TH BIRTH SHARI MONIQUE BETHEL!!!! I LUV N MISS U SO MUCH!!!

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  134. he killed her and he should pay the price,if he walks the nashville police will look very inebt and they can only blame themselves

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  135. Obviously, the Anonymous person that posted on 8/03/10 must be someone that doesn't know him real well. I'm sure someone that has been listening to her sister, who by the way lies so much that she can't keep them straight! WOW!!!!
    If he walks, it will be because it is proven that it was just what has been said, it was an ACCIDENT!, and that all who DIDN'T know him well was just LYING in the first place. I know people are hurt, HELL who isn't?? But trying to destroy that Man's life won't bring her back!!! HE LOVES HER TOO!!! What did he have to gain?? He was a Police Officer, EVERYBODY who knew him before this happened would know that HE IS SMARTER THAN THAT!!!!! Just because they didn't like him is no reason to try and destroy is life.HELL, don't people know he has to live with this the rest of his life, his last images of the Woman he love lying on the floor bleeding!!!! GET A DAMN LIFE!!!

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  136. at sept 11th i feel what you saying on some things but let me ask you this if he is so smart wouldnt you know not to point a gun at someone knowing that it can go off at any point and last time i checked you are taught that at the police academy

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  137. we still love you deon no matter what

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  138. To anonymous (9-15)..... Who needs to get a life....her mom and sister, well they had a life....it is now SHATTERED! They can't put their shattered lives back together, they will always be missing a very significant person from their lives. I dont know if you have children or not but if and when you do, you will see why the need to protect them never goes away even when they are grown and married. I am tired of defending my families feeling with the loss of such a beautiful person. Why dont we let the justice system work. And instead of trying to tear my family down rejoice in the fact that yours is still breathing, and show some compassion for a mother who loss her daughter in such an unimaginable way. Show the same compassion for a sister who lost her only sibling, for two little girls, one who will never know her aunt, and the other who will bearly remember her.

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  139. Sorry 9-15 I meant 9-11. Please accept my apology.

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  140. Erica,
    I apologize,I did not mean to get you upset, but as you probably have read, the reports initially said "SELF INFLICTED", why would they turn around and change the story? Seem like all somebody want to do is get a conviction, no matter what! It is alraedy known that she did not handle weapons correctly, NOW, I know that it is hard to think that someone you love would actually mishandle a weapon,and have an accident, but IT HAPPENS! I HATE IT HAPPENED. Don't try and day he did it just because they (y'all) didn't like him!!!! Shari was smarter than that, if there was some abuse goin on, trust, she would've told, since you know her so well! No way would she have let that go on, she know his parents didn't go for that!

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  141. If the initial reports say self inflicted then why would they change the report? If there is no case there is no case. We can't make the police come up with a charge if there was no crime, we don't have that power. The answer to the first question is simple....after further investigation the EVIDENCE shows that there is more to this story than previously thought. Enough evidence to warrant a charge and a trial by a jury of his peers. The fist officer on the seen is just that AN OFFICER, he is not a dectective. And if deons account of the events and how they unfolded is in fact the truth and the evidence shows that then well, what are you and all of his friends so worried about. I have put this situation in Gods hands and his will shall be done. I will though protect Sharis' name and my family. Oh and I personally never disliked deon I did not agree with some of the things he did and said, but dislike, naw thats not me....someone has given you the wrong information about Erica, dislike is not in my character. You have a nice life and enjoy your time with deon. I wish I could enjoy mine with Shari..........

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  142. Antoya BrandonOctober 11, 2010

    as far as not liking Deon, Im so sick and tired of people saying that because its so dumb its not even worth addressing. As far as the reports, guess what they take time to come in. As far as my sister shooting herself, the trial will tell the story. I wish I had the power that you people think I do to convince my own family and the police of what a nut case he is/was, if I had that much influence I would be a rich lady. As far as Deons memories of MY sister, tell him to remember how he called her fat, or told her she was ugly in high shcool on Christmas day, or how he controlled her money to the point she couldnt buy a can of greenbeans the Sunday before she died, or how about how she had to trick him to use her OWN paycheck to get her microbraids done the list could go on and on but I wouldnt waste my time. And as far as WHAT his mother and father would tolerate save the bullshit, I and plenty of other people have heard him talk to his poor mother like a dog! Sent her a card when she was in the pen for mothers day and scrathed out every mother deserves freedom, so save that perfect son stuff for someone who doesnt know him!Now ask him if thats a lie!!!!!!!

    By the way you people should really grow up and post your names since you have such GREAT opinions

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  143. And why would the cops want to convict their own, thats crazy to me.

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  144. TRIAL IN MAY

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  145. Trial May 9th 2011 Will all come to light

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  146. Shae-Cousin of ShariMarch 16, 2011

    Well it's a yr today since our Angel Shari Monique Bethel was taken from us! I pray God comforts our family,n most of all wrap his arms around Toya and Charlotte..Their pain is much worse then the rest of our family she wasa sister n daughter to them! We're hurting now n always will,but I know come Mat 9th God will show all who's in control! For all of u still n denial 1yr later,I pray for u all! We cant control what u want 2 believe,but the facts r n black n white. He didnt give her life so what n the HELL made him think he could take it!! God bless all of u including the MURDERER!!

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  147. Denial will be seen TRIAL DAY!!! Then see who has the last SAY!!

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  148. AnonymousJune 15, 2011

    What happened at the trial?

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  149. AnonymousJune 15, 2011

    Delayed.

    How does a person tell CONFLICTING stories about their how their spouse was SHOT AND KILLED and then get to walk around free?

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  150. To the person who repeatedly tries to post toxic messages here to defend Deon's innocence, laced with crude profanities aimed at the people who love Shari, you are wasting your time trying to get your comments posted here. Won't happen.

    Tip in case you don't know: You make Deon look bad. You are working against your own purpose.

    Let time happen. What will be, will be.

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  151. ERICA (LOVING COUSIN/SISTER)July 28, 2011

    Thank you, Behind The Blue wall. We appreciate what you are doing. Sharis' birthday is approaching and all though she has been gone a year it is still hard for me to believe that I will never speak to her again in this life. To all the people that support our family in our pursuit for justice THANK YOU.

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  152. <3
    Much love to your family. May God continue to strengthen you to handle this with such public grace while your hearts are so broken.

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  153. AnonymousJuly 30, 2011

    Happy Birthday Shari boo! I miss having you around, but I know God is looking out for you, just like I know he is gonna look out for Deon!!!! U and I are accustomed to the finer things in life, I sure wish U were here. See U when I get there!!!!!

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  154. JUSTICE FOR SHARI AUG 22,2011!!!! GOD HAS US N HIS HANDS!!! NOW MY BESTIE WILL FINALLY B ABLE TO REST HER PRETTY HEAD!!! I LUV U SHARI!!!

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  155. Behind the Blue Wall, thank you for your support and encouragment during this difficult time. DEON CARTMELL WAS FOUND GUILTY OF MURDER TONIGHT. A jury of his peers saw what Shari's family knew from day one. Our angel can rest in peace.

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  156. YOU ARE SO WELCOME. THANK GOD!!! NASHVILLE POLICE/INVESTIGATORS DID A GREAT JOB, PROSECUTORS DID A GREAT JOB, AND THE FAMILY HELD UP BY FAITH THROUGH THE PROCESS.

    I AM SO SO SO SORRY THAT YOU DON'T HAVE SHARI.

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  157. As Sharis sister I would like to thank the Blue Wall for keeping this story out there. Hopefully some young girl can learn from my sisters situation and walk away as soon as she realizes shes with a monster! Secondly to the disrespectful morons who disrespected my family and swore the monster was so in love with Shari - I hope you have learned a lesson about taking people at face value and believing what it is you want to believe to help you feel better about knowing a psycho and not realizing it. He tortured my baby sister until she took her last breath! He degraded her, cheated on her, and broke down her self esteem to the point she had nooooo clue what to do as a 24 year old that had never been exposed to such trash! I can't wait to adress his ass on October 7. And to his friends... especially the ones who believed she shot through the floor... pick your friends a little better next time.

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  158. Antoya,
    you can address him all you want, but it won't change the fact that Shari will not be back! We already know that there was/is something SINISTER goin with the D.A Deon will be back, so all the LIES didn't change much!!!!May God bless you!!!

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  159. People can be so HAEDheaded. It is what it is.

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  160. Antoya brandonSeptember 14, 2011

    Lol...now the da is sinister. You people are just as sick as deon. Pathetic continue to make excuses for a convicted murderer, and if u were in the trial that makes it even worse! He is a cheating abusive killer...who lied from the beginning to the end. I guess ur theory is the jack russell moved shari to the couch and pushed on her back. But thats right deon was doing cpr...nevermind HIS EXPERT said he was lying! Bottomline: get ur pen and paper ready that bastards going to pay for killing my sister. You are right he will be back in twenty five years! God bless

    P.s. The anonymous post are just as pathetic now as they were before he was convicted. Be a man or woman and stand behind your statement. Good day

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  161. The anonymous person....Hopefully you were listening to the evidence presented by both sides at trial. Or maybe you have a hard time comprehending the evidence. See if you can obtain the transcribed version and maybe after you read it yourself that will help you to see your friend for what he is, a coniving, lying, murderer.

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  162. And as far as Shari coming back....She is always here with us, I see her in my aunt, my cousin, her neices, in my moms house, in my brothers house, my house, I hear her voice in my sleep, I hear her laugh. He could never take her spirit from us, as far as her body, that was just a shell that God loaned her for a while, her soul was always Gods, that could not be destroyed by the evil living in Deon. So stand by your friend, but mostly pray for him, thats what he really needs. Dont worry about Shari, she is our angel now.

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  163. To "Anonymous" who tried to comment here to Shae and Tangela - pffft.

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  164. So, they can say what the H-ll! they want, and it gets posted!!!

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  165. No, it was just so extra foul and irrelevant that it couldn't get posted. WAY too inflammatory to hide behind "anonymous" too.

    Why not just say, "I'm really sorry this happened"?

    Why not say, "I really didn't think he did it. I'm sorry for coming at you like I did before"?

    The comment I didn't post was all low blows. Why?

    EVERYbody is sorry Deon killed Shari. Only Deon pulled the trigger so no one else should have to be fighting and everyone is free to keep loving who they love.

    Love is the law.

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  166. I'm praying that everyone can start healing, and really die emotionally to themselves (remember we should be dieing to ourselves daily). Even though Shari is gone, and Deon is in prison we are sinning by hating our enemies, by cursing one another, by talking about faith and God but calling ppl out of their names. Not once have I heard anyone acknowledge the fact that the DEVIL is taking over our generation. How broken homes are the devil's play shop. Please stop allowing the enemy to control your emotions and stay before the Lord. No matter who's right or wrong, we all have a JUDGEMENT DAY. Focus on the end and not the present. Because in the end everything that was written, said, and done, will end with "Depart from me, for I never knew you...... or.....my child you have done well. I'm praying that you all can heal and successfully pass this test. Thanks for reading, and I'm praying that nothing negative follows this comment, except that we speak against the enemy in our lives.

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  167. No more insults will be posted here.

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  168. Hi Shari Boo!

    I miss seeing your HAPPY FACE and that little Girl voice, but everytime I look at your beautiful picture, I think " I see why Deon loved her"! U R certainly different( N A good way). I was at the last day of the trial, and I was asking myself, "Where did Shari come from, she doesn't belong to THAT FAMILY! Everytime I go outside, I see the same Butterfly. I told my Son that was U trying to communicate with us! But, as you can see, EVERYTHING is gonna be ALRIGHT! Nothing has changed, but an address!
    C U when I get there Shari. I know U R watching over the People that U love the most!!!!!!

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  169. Shari ,
    As you can see, everything is gonna be alright, and boy are SOME PEOPLE gonna be surprised! I now understand why you said, and did what you did!!!! We LOVE and MISS you.

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  170. Amen !!!!
    To Anonymous 9/22, that's all it is, EMOTIONS taking over. That was obvious, cause anyone that knew them, know what kind of person Deon is. Even if it was an accident, and no one is admitting to it, people have to know that this was not intentionally done. But, I guess anyone's emotions would be high during a time like this, and I know that people want somebaody to pay. I just hope some people can live with what they said, and WASN"T TRUE!!!

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  171. No ACCIDENT AT ALL! DEON CARTMELL MURDERED Shari! I think it's sad that those of you continue to come on here even after he has been convicted. As Shari's cousin, I will say that after all the evidence the DA had, he should have been charged with 1ST DEGREE PREMEDITATED INTENTIONAL MURDER!!! All of us know that with the 2nd degree charge,and having to do 25 years FLAT, Deon has to still answer to the man above for taking a life that he didn't give! Our family is very prayerful,and we knew God would never leave our side. As for Shari, she can finally spread her wings and fly around heaven being that justice has finally been served!!! She was OUR ANGEL and will ALWAYS be our ANGEL....
    R.I.P. SHARI MONIQUE BETHEL

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  172. Shari,
    I know you are looking down on us, probably shaking your head...the other day brought back a flood of memories. I look at your picture often....miss you very much! See you when I get there. I know you watchin over Deon! Although some HATE IT!!!!!!!

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