Thursday, May 20, 2010
I apologize for not being active but nobody's perfect
This is the first post in almost 2 weeks though. That has never happened before. A friend threw me for a loop. I can't say much without identifying her - but let's just say she was one of the shiniest examples of survival. She - and a chain of helpers along her way - went to great lengths for her and her chldren to make a new life - but then she hooked up with a new boyfriend - a police officer in the news accused of domestic violence. She is someone who knows everything, and not only escaped her previous officer-involved domestic violence situation - but had seen hundreds of cases alongside me. I met her quite awhile ago when she was a wreck and I saw how far she's come, how hard she's worked.
Never put people on a pedestal. It's good for no one. I know that but sometimes I slip. We are all human.
I'm a day wiser.
I will always love her but in the details the trust has been damaged. She has yelled - and even screeched - at me for the first time in our friendship, and has accused me of being AGAINST her and biased - frustrated that I can't be as sure as she is of his innocence as she explains the list of each accusation away. Why can't I know as she does that her new boyfriends' ex, the alleged victim, is lying?
He knew she was a survivor of officer-involved domestic violence before they ever spoke.
I will always be there if she needs me down the road.
Thank to those who have encouraged me to not quit.
Don't think I'm trying to change my friend. She has the right to make her own decisions. I said my piece until I was sure my input didn't matter and now I have a right to lay my boundaries. She belongs to God. Personal relationships aren't as important to me as the bigger issue for victims, and maybe on the day I'm laid to rest no one will be there because I am so damn mean. :) But my life is full, God is good, and nothing has been in vain.
A sense of humor will get me through the harder days. I'll just whisper, "Isn't it ironic?"
Here's to tomorrow - and the day after that....