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Thursday, January 15, 2009

[NY] Melissa (Messineo) Varrone's Myspace page was deleted, so...

The heart that Melissa had spinning on her page

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[NY] DEATH OF UNMENTIONED OFFICER'S UNNAMED WIFE RULED SUICIDE AFTER 1 DAY INVESTIGATION - ...The Times Union is withholding the name of the victim as a matter of privacy. During the day Saturday - several investigators combed through the house at Floral Avenue before ruling the death a suicide...

One of the (many) things I appreciate about Myspace pages is that if you die, your friends can still stop by when they think of you and leave messages - on what would have been your birthday, in the middle of the night, whenever, for whatever reason. They stop by to remember you or miss you. Our Myspace page is so personal. We put our mark on it. Most often our hearts show - but at least our thoughts -what's happening in our lives or what's on our mind.

Having blogged so many deaths I have many links to many pages of those who have left us. But Melissa's page is gone:

"Invalid Friend ID.
This user has either cancelled their membership, or their account has been deleted."

Since everyone else's pages are still there - people who died years ago - I was surprised when someone left a message on the last post to say that Melissa's page was no longer there. Someone went through a process to have her page removed from Myspace? Is there some other explanation?

But I keep things.

I kept her page... screencaptured it while it was still there.

Melissa Varrone's last log-in date to her page was also the day she died - November 8th, 2008:

I enlarged the picture and dwelled on her final public Myspace words. I worked in Photoshop to see her better:

Melissa's Myspace

Bites you in the ass when you least expect it
let's see who can be the better person

26 years old

New York

United States

Last Login: 11/8/2008

Melissa is recovering from a kick ass weekend

I'm not going to apologize for the following picture. I work on photos of victims to get a sense of who the world lost. I'm comtemplative. Here is the picture I did right after I first saw her page, again wondering if her words were simply spoken, or a trail of crumbs through the forest.


I'm not going to say anything more this morning than

she is exceedingly beautiful
& it's exceedingly sad how she died.
[police officer involved domestic violence oidv intimate partner violence (IPV) abuse law enforcement public safety fatality fatalities lethal murder suicide rotterdam new york state so-called alleged melissa messineo unsolved unresolved]


  1. I actually really feel sick to my stomach..

  2. Her husband deleted it.

  3. I don't know who deleted it, but whoever did is probably really thankful that it was a private page. What we see is all that was available to the general public.

  4. From Topix:

    Truth be told
    Amsterdam, NY
    Nov 20, 2008
    I knew Melissa very good we grew up together. I had spoke to her just a couple of days before her death. She was happy, We were talking about getting the kids together within the next week and she told me she would talk to me in a couple of days. She wasnt mentaly unstable and she loved her little boy. I believe with all my heart that she DID NOT take her own life. And its kinda wierd that her husband was home!!!

    Virginia Beach, VA
    Nov 20, 2008
    I am on the same page...If I was related to her I would demand further investigation...she will be remembered like this forever...Ive lost a few friends to overdose and 1 to suicide and its hard to cope...your mad but sad and feel even worse for the families...if her husband who was home was involved then justice should be served! I dont care who he is, who his family is, who he knows...its about justice! Problem is if he did do this and he doesnt feel guilty, maybe there is more to him than people know, he might be capable to succeed in other cases too if people keep looking the other way!


    Truth be told
    Amsterdam, NY
    Nov 20, 2008
    I pray that her sister alicia and her mother fight to find the truth! She was such a wonderful woman and mother!!! RIP Melissa, you will be missed. Love Always



  6. Her real family and friends don't believe it was suicide either. Not sure what's being covered up.

  7. That's good to know. Not that it will help, but it's still good to know.
    Thank you.

  8. He deleted Melissa's page because he was afraid.

  9. AnonymousJune 26, 2010

    So, if someone were to meet him and like him, should she stay away from him? What does her family really think happened?

  10. He didn't even bury his own wife, so what does that say? Lots more to the story!

  11. Contact me (please): oidvn@yahoo.com

  12. To the person who submitted a comment starting, "They need to open this case again..." - do you want me to post that or was it to me? Are you using your real name and did you mean to? Just looking out for you. Let me know please.


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